Miscarriage: You are not alone. Get the right support
Losing your baby even before it is born could be a traumatic experience for any mother. Miscarriages are common, but that doesn't reduce the trauma by an iota. At times, the mother feels a kind of loss that she cannot express to anyone else.
Many women prefer to stay silent about their miscarriage, mainly because they haven't told about their pregnancy either. So, they do not want to share their grief with others. Also, the silence can be because of the fear of judgement or unnecessary consolation that they will receive from friends and family.
So, in all this, you are left feeling alone. But, NO! You need not feel alienated and traumatised for a long time. You must try to give in your best and come out of the pain to take care of your present and future. How to reduce grief? Here are a few things that could help lessen your pain.
SHARE
Do not hesitate to confide your grief in your closest people. If you open up, chances are that they, too, will open up about their sorrows or similar incidents, which could boost your confidence to look back at motherhood again. We suggest disclosing the news to only those you can relate to and are empathetic because the last thing you want to hear is any harsh taunt.
COPE
It is an irreversible loss, and it is easier said than done when we ask you to cope. It may take time, and you will feel like the end of the world with all your negative thoughts. But you can find numerous ways to cope with the loss and distract yourself from the thoughts holding you back.
- Indulge yourself in recreational activities that will allow you to vent your inner grief. Painting or poetry is an excellent means to do so. You can write about your pain and see how it relaxes you.
- Other activities that could help you cope with the loss include shopping and gardening. Growing green plants and seeing flowers could significantly relax and elevate your mood. It is a good pastime for a break from your monotonous life.
- SEEK HELP – SEE A THERAPIST
No matter what you try, it is highly likely that you will always be left with some residual grief. So, we always suggest such women see a therapist or a gynecologist . Many people think it is not required and everything is 'Normal'. But, a good counselling session can do wonders for each of us. A counsellor helps to go a long way on the path to healing. When seeking a counsellor, seek someone specialising in therapeutic care for women with miscarriages. They will surely use their techniques to make you feel better and look at life with a fresh pair of lenses.
Ovum Hospital is one such centre for women's health care & Maternity Hospitalin Bangalore. Be it any women-related issue, we are always listening! Our therapists are experienced in dealing with such complex cases and provide the best counselling to help you cope with such stressful situations.
Losing a child through miscarriage doesn'tdoesn't make you any less of a mother – this is something we believe in, and it is our responsibility to make you think in the same. If you are going through such kind of pain, please feel free to contact us today!